You Deserve Better, Sister.

Somewhere out there, a dear sister in the Lord has made some serious mistakes in her life and is about to make (or already has made) the biggest mistake yet: tossing away her savior and the brethren for a man. Maybe you feel like you have to give yourself to him this way to keep him, maybe you’re just not strong enough to say no, maybe he’s even asked you to move in with him and you’re afraid you’ll lose him if you don’t. You have a million excuse why you have to do this, but the truth is you don’t want to lose this guy because he’s so much better than the other guys you’ve given pieces of yourself to.

Sister, this one may not drink, smoke, or do drugs, he may be clean cut, have a good paying job, and may not have shown signs of violence–yet–but he’s still not good enough for you. You deserve better than a man that doesn’t respect you enough to put a wedding band on your finger before hitting the sack.

Remember that day when you hit your knees and gave your heart to the King of Kings? Remember when he took away your shame? Why have you returned again, like a dog to his vomit? Don’t you know that day the King of Kings adopted you as His own? Sister, you’re a princess, and you deserve to be treated like one. Wait for your prince, Sister, and I don’t care how regal he looks compared to the others, that guy you’ve got isn’t a prince. A true prince won’t ask, or agree, to enter in and become one together anywhere but on the marriage bed.

A true prince is human, yes. Glory knows if not for the grace of God, my prince and I would not have had the strength to wait. Still, a true prince will show remorse when his flesh wins out and go at once to make things right. That pauper masquerading as the prince you’ve been dreaming of is merely taking you deeper into sin and away from our Father with promises afar off. I plead with you, beloved, do not throw away your inheritance for a castle made of sand that cannot stand.

Outside the marriage covenant, there is absolutely nothing holding that guy to you when the storms of life come, and they surely will. Yes, maybe you’ll be one of the lucky few, and he eventually keeps his word and marries you, but why turn your back on our Father like this? He does care, sister, that spirit whispering in your ear that you can do as you please and give his law the finger and still enter in is lying to you. You’ve turned your back on our father to go after other gods—maybe that boy, most likely, yourself. Jesus took a horrible beating and hung nailed to a tree, with his nakedness exposed just to cover your shame. How can you betray such love?

If you can’t turn back for yourself, or even for your first love, think of your children. Maybe they’re not here yet, but they will be. Maybe you don’t think you deserve or need the security of marriage, but before you move in with that boy, realize even if he does marry you down the line, he’ll still feel the same way he does now, whether he’ll admit it or not. When the “for worse” comes, and it surely will, the odds are high that he’ll bail and leave your children without their daddy. Don’t your children deserve better than the legacy of a broken home? Are you really so selfish you will afflict on your children the penalty for your sin, as the bible says, even unto third and fourth generation? Even if you don’t believe me that you deserve better than this, don’t you think your children do?

And sister, only the Lord knows who you are, so you might want to take your hand off the send button and delete that flame before you expose yourself.